I’m reading Eat, Pray, Love and Elizabeth Gilbert, the author, talks deeply on the subject of loneliness. She heavily craves, no, she needs the comfort, love, and emotional attachment with a partner to get rid of that feeling. She simply cannot be alone, both physically and emotionally. This idea, I think, resonates in our society a lot today. We depend too much in a relationship and way too too much of our emotional stability in someone else.
It mirrors what our society is today and who we are as human beings. We tend to attach the meaning of loneliness with the lack of a male-female (or female-female, male-male) relationship. We always try to avoid feeling lonely by falling into a relationship, rather than coping how to rise from it by yourself.
While I do understand having a partner rids you of that, but it in no way guarantees loneliness will pop up again even while being in a relationship. When you look toward attaching yourself to a romantic relationship to avoid being lonely, you’re only tackling the symptoms, not the problem. Nah meen? It’s like western medicine and how we prescribe pills to get rid of that headache, but we never look at the root cause of it to fully see why we get it and how we can get rid of it not for just one day, but for life. We always look at it in the short-term perspective, never long-term.
So one should always learn how to engage with oneself, something I daresay is a difficult task, yet at the same time, so empowering (and I’m not talking about that kind of self-engaging, ya dirty people). No longer do you depend on someone else, but you control wassup. That in itself, is already an amazing development.
So to all my beautiful womyn out there, don’t fall for a guy because of loneliness. Tackle it yourself, do the beautiful things in life that brings you pleasure, and create your own remedy to kick it out of your life. Once you have it down pat, then fall for a guy that deserves you. =]
